Relationships are give and take, commitments, sacrifices and adjustments. Many people think relationships coincide with reciprocity. Let’s take a look at the meaning of reciprocity:
A reciprocal state or relation.
Reciprocation; mutual exchange
Dictionary.com Unabridged (v 1.1)
Based on the Random House Unabridged Dictionary, © Random House, Inc. 2006.
Let’s take a look at John and Sheila (names have been changed to protect identity). Sheila and John were dating and when it came time for sex John wanted Sheila to perform oral sex however he told her he was not going downtown. Now, Sheila was not going for the you do me but I won’t do you scenario. She told John that it would be a cold day in hell before she let him have sexual gratification and she would be left without. John was very serious about her giving him sexual gratification. Every time they were together he asked for oral sex. He told he her would never go down on her. She even bought sexual movies to help entice him. He tried once but to no prevail did it work. In the end, Sheila had to let John go.
Now was Sheila right to let him go because he wouldn’t give her the same sexual gratification he so desired. But with respect to reciprocity, it is the principle about the situation. Never say what you won’t do for a person when you want to receive the same pleasure. What makes anyone think the other person will not be offended by their statements or actions.
There is a female named Rhonda. Rhonda is very intelligent and crafty. However, Rhonda refuses to date men whose physical ascetic is not up to par. Now Rhonda is not a BRICK HOUSE by any means. She demands that her men are physically fit. Even though she has a big ASS belly, she is rocking a negative six pack. This translates to no washboard stomach
We all have preferences but when is your preference hindering a meaningful relationship because you are being petty. It’s nothing wrong for wanting physical fitness but you yourself have to first be in shape or on top of your game.
What is your view on reciprocity? Give us your opinion on either scenario?
O.K., you asked for it.
Sit-rep #1- What the h***!!! I’m really gettin sick of everyones sex drama. The first course of action would be not to engage in it at all until you’re mature enough to deal with it. (now-a-days that would add up to 105 yrs old.)
*Second course of action, Kick his a** to the curb, if your partner is not interested in pleasing you in the bed or back seat or where-eva on this level, then they won’t want to do it on most other levels either.
*Third course of action- Put the lollipop that dosen’t dissolve in the doghouse. Only do this if the relationship is serious enough that the two of you can carry it on without THAT becoming an issue.
Scenario #2- OMG!!!!! I saw the previews for that movie with Monique and a fit brotha was sweatin her. Puh-leeeeese!!! The only way he would be sweatin her is if he was trying to lift her off his fitness membership card. Standards are great, but we need to live in reality ppl. If we degrade others that are in the same pkg we’re in, only means we don’t like how we see ourselves. I’m a big fella, but my wife is petite. I didn’t pick her, God led HER to ME. (she hit on me) we’ve been married for 10 yrs and still going strong. But my type/standard which attracts me is different. (won’t get into that here) So sounds like someone needs to work on themselves in this sit-rep.
…and I’m out!