Talking Dirty

Since I am filling in for Sensual Element today, I feel the need to offer this disclaimer – I do not, in any way, shape or form, possess sexpertise like Sensual Element! LOL!  With that said, let’s talk about talking dirty in bed.

When you are in the heat of the moment with your lover, I think that is the best time to be uninhibited.  Be free to say and do what ever it is you are feeling – as long as it is respectful to your lover.  Why not spice things up a bit by talking dirty?

I found this hilarious clip about talking dirty – funny stuff, but offers some good tips:   [youtube

Here is a Q&A I found on – they have a great Sex and Love site!

Question:  My boyfriend keeps asking me to talk dirty to him during sex, but I have no idea what to say.   Do you have any suggestions?

Answer:  Whether you’re saying something sensual, making raunchy remarks or sharing a wild fantasy, you don’t want your carnal comments to sound forced, so just share the sexy thoughts that pop into your mind rather than trying to rack your brain for something racy. And remember, you don’t need to talk the entire session, let alone every time you’re doing the deed.

Conquer your nerves by starting simple. Tell your guy that you like the way he’s touching you, saying something like “It feels so good when you stroke me like that.” Try complimenting his body or telling him what you want himto do to you (“Lick my nipples,” “I want you inside me,” “Thrust deeper,” etc.). You may even find that voicing your desires can make the encounter more intense for you, too.

If you’re really tongue-tied and can’t think of anything to say, turn the tables and let him take the lead by asking what he wants to do to you or what you should do to him. Then you can take your cue from his lusty lingoand respond with some titillating talk of your own. After a few sessions like this, I bet your bedroom bantering skills will be top-notch.

Like Neyo sings, sometimes you just have to “Say It!” [youtube song to get things going!

Does talking dirty mean you have to be crass?  I don’t think so, but all that matters is you being comfortable with what you are saying.  If are aren’t feeling it, it will come off fake and that is so not sexy!  Be confident in your approach; otherwise, don’t do it!


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  • kia July 29, 2007 at 2:16 PM

    lol…good stuff jam bella…

    -J.R. you did a wonderful job stepping in for S.E. great topic and advice!

  • Jam Bella July 27, 2007 at 2:40 PM

    We like to dirty driving in the car and at the kitchen table…to prep for the bedroom or any other place we deem appropriate for shagging 😉