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Happy New Year!! Hope your New Year’s Eve was eventful.

One of my Beauty new year’s resolution is to rediscover products in my stash.  I decided it was time “rediscover” my purple e/s. The NYX Purple ultra pearl mania is one of my favorite purple e/s.  The shimmer is gorgeous.  I foiled it using MAC’s Fix +, which gave the shimmer, a more brilliant shine.

Another product that I discovered was the Waveline fluidline (f/l).  The color is similar to blue ink (with a slight purple tint.) I bought this product when MAC had the 15% Friends and Family sale.  I think the fluidlines are better bases than the paint pots because the crease factor is non-existent.  The only problem I see is that they can stain the skin, so I always use the matte gel as base for the fluidline.

All MAC Products unless stated.

Face

• NW 43/ NC 50 Studio Tech Foundation
• Natural MSF in Dark

Eyes

• Matte Gel
• Benefit Lemon aid
• Waveline Fluidline
• NYX Purple Ultra Pearl Mania (used with Fix +)
• Nocturnell e.s
• Glamour Check e/s
• Too Faced Shooting Star Baked e/s
• Tan side from the L’Oreal Hip Duo Adventurous
• Milani Color Brilliance Eye Pencil – Black
• Nouba Kajal and Contour #32 (Deep Purple)
• Stila Multi-Effect Mascara in Black

Cheek

• Neo-Sci Fi X-Rocks
• Neo-Sci Fi Spaced Out

Lips

NYX Tea Rose l/g
To Swoon For l/s (Adoring Carmine: 3 Rose lips)

Live abundantly,

Mix Maven

There are plenty of new moms in my family.  They are all are excited about the babies, most of them are new moms and one has multiple children.  One’s life changes as soon as the baby is home.   I would think the hardest thing about being a new mom is getting enough sleep, which can negatively impact other activities.  I decided to come up with a list of things that I believe a new mom needs to help her adjust to her new bundle of joy.

So every new mom needs:

1. Chef – A new mom is tired, which means she does not need to be operating anything with fire or heat.   Having a chef may be a luxury, BUT family members and friends should make sure the new family is eating sensible meals everyday (well, at least, the first 4 weeks after delivery.)

2. Housekeeper – A healing mother should not be vacuuming or doing dishes the first month after delivery.

3. Babysitter – Now, some moms do not like to leave their child(ren) with other people.  (I suggest that they read Find The Time.)  First time moms should begin scouting out prospective babysitters while pregnant.  (This is important if new mom live in a place where she has little to no family members.)  New parents will need to find someone they respect and trust to take care of their child(ren).  I also suggest not burning bridges with people who would be great sitters.  Start with leaving the child with the sitter for a couple of hours and phase in more hours as he or she gets older.  For example, if the anniversary weekend is coming up and want to leave the child with grandma (do not let that be the first time he or she is away from for a long period of time.)

4. Date Night -  Date night is very important to rekindle the sparks in your relationship.  (Main reason why #3 is very important.)   I know people who do not spend much time without their child(ren).  That is a bad sign in a relationship.  Will the relationship last when the child(ren) leave to go to school?  Preservation of the relationship should be on-going and deliberate.

5. Pampering – (No connection to Pampers Diapers) A new mom must be reminded that it is ok for her to pamper herself or to be pampered.  Take her to her favorite cosmetic counter or to a spa.  She is stressed out (but may not want to say), so nudge her (kindly and gently) to take some time for herself.  A happy mom means a happy baby and, ultimately, a happy household.

So check on your new moms TODAY!!!!

Mix Maven

I love me some Maroon 5.  Last summer I was rocking this album on a, seemingly, endless loop, so I was excited to hear about the release of the  Deluxe CD/DVD of “It Won’t Soon Before Long”  I loved this album because of the 80s elements, sexy lyrics and soft ballads.

I love the idea of Maroon 5 and Rihanna partnering in the song, “If I Never See Your Face Again”.  I did not even realize that Maroon 5 did a remix (kinda) with Rihanna. (Sidebar: I have been super, duper busy lately, rendering me unconscious to popular cultural happenings.)  I will say that Rihanna does not sound half-bad and her style and makeup (FLAWLESS!!!)   Adam Levine is definitely a looker, which adds to the mystique of the band.   Dangit, I am still PO’ed I missed them in concert last year.  And the upcoming tour date to my area is not even convenient.  Damn you, somebody! LOL No one to really blame.

I will be picking up the Deluxe CD coming out July 8, 2008.

Maroon 5 (and Rihanna) “If I Never See Your Face Again”

Keep Cool,

Mix Maven

Sex toy producers are coming up with clever items that can be confused as traditional household items.

What about this blush brush?

Can you spot which item is for the household or sex toy?

Take the household item vs. sex toy quiz.

Let me know your score.  I got 9/12, which is not too bad of a score.

Mix Maven 

Happy Friday Glossy Ones,

You know how we do it on Fridays…

FRIDAY FREAK

Ray J. is back with “Sexy Can I.” Gotta give it to Ray – he has been coming out with jams in recent times (“One Wish,” “What I Need“). While T-Pain caught flack for commenting on Ray’s “meat,” we have to agree with T-Pain 100%! LOL! Ray can get it at minute 2:45, getting his D’Angelo on! Yum!

FRIDAY FLASHBACK

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Speaking D’Angelo, let’s go back and peep one of my fave videos of all time for very obvious reasons. Whenever I watch “How Does It Feel,” I have this overwhelming feeling of wanting to bump the camera down! Big ups to D’Angelo for giving us Ladies some eye candy!

I heard this on a Russ Parr “Wrong Song” mix last week and wow, it took me back. Here’s Oaktown 357 with “Juicy.” If you want to see it in color, click here.

SEXY SHOE PICK

Decisions, decisions!

You will be killing them softly in these Jessica Simpsons. The “Jacie” has the shine, the style and the 4.5 inch stilleto heel to turn heads. I couldn’t decide which color is the hottest – tell us which color you would rock! I would definitely invest in the black pair, but the other two colors are simply dazzling. I would love to see Jess do a chain of shoe stores.

SWIM SUIT SEASON

Are you longing for summer like I am? This has got to the be coldest and longest winter ever! SIDEBAR – If you haven’t read “The Coldest Winter Ever” by Sister Soulja, please believe it is a great read. An urban tale of life’s ups and downs, I could not put it down when I read it a few years ago. Ok, sorry, back to the matter at hand….I plan on dragging Mix and Sen to the beach as soon as it gets hot. Here is a darling ensemble I plan on getting from Old Navy:

How cute! Green is my fave color, so I’m too thrilled! LOL!

Or step out on the beach like a Top Model in this tank with matching bottom – that’s Dani from ANTM btw. I love it paired with the bracelets.

Think you don’t have the body for a swim suit? Then get a plain one piece suit and pair it with a cute cover up – it will look like you have on a dress:

I love breezy black and white prints for the summer.

How cute is this one!

I would wear this one as a cover up and later on, pair it with some jeans. Old Navy has cover ups that go up to a size 3X. No need to be ashamed to go to the beach this year Ladies – you do you!

AEROBIC STRIP TEASE

If you have been with us from the beginning, you know Sensual Element’s first post was about Carmen Electra’s strip tease. Here is a clip of the routine that you can use for exercise and for turning things up with your lover.

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10 SEX CRAVINGS ALL GUYS HAVE from Cosmopolitan.com

This is the year of the Baby in my family. Four babies will be born in 2008. The current score is 2 out and 2 to go.

I notice that the moms-to-be are all different and yet the same.

I have noticed that pregnant women like (not in any order):

1. Consuming food they would not normally eat. One of my cousins loves sweet desserts (sidebar: does not include any sweet vegetable, which she already found utterly disgusting), especially an occasional cookie or yellow cake with lemon frosting. Currently, she is totally disgusted by any sweet food or drink. She told me she is buying juice that with 17g-25g of sugar (no high fructose corn syrup.) Very cool to me! My favorite cousin was chowing down on soul food in her first trimester, which is funny because she does not normally eat soul food.
2. Banana Republic – Two of my cousins have been going to Banana Republic to purchase maternity clothes. (No, BR does not sell maternity clothes) The blouson tops and dresses allow them to hit up the clearance rack for cute clothes without having to spend the high price of maternity branded clothes.
3. Pregnancy websites and blogs. Books are great, but pregnant women love to read these websites and blogs because they get updated information and cool 3-D womb shots and fetal development e-mails. Check out Nymbler (a baby naming tool, quite innovative. Select your names that you like and the wizard will help you find other names that you might like) and BabyCenter.com
4. Guilt – This can be a valuable tool when asking husband to trek in the middle of the night to get food or get a glass of water downstairs in the kitchen. This should be used sparingly because you do not want to cause any feelings of resentment.
5. Looking at paint store websites. My favorite cousin’s latest obsession (again) is BenjaminMoore.com. She loves to decorate anyway and pregnancy has brought on a new project for her. She has been creating different color combos for me to check out. Oh fun times!!
6. Watching or recording the Baby Story on TLC. My cousin told me about how some of these women, the first-timers, want to have natural, drug-free delivery. I asked her would she do that and her answer is “HELL NOOOOO!!”
7. Shopping for nursery furniture. (see #5)
8. Shopping for baby clothes and accessories
9. Expensive diaper bags. On my cousin’s wish list: A Louis Vuitton Diaper bag (that is a no-go area) or a Coach (more acceptable)
10. Talking about their pregnancies. My fave cousin finds this conversation tends to be initiated by friends who already have kids and want to tell her about what they went through. She finds most of the information irrelevant to her situation.

I will update from time to time. Fun learning new things about motherhood.

Keep Believing,

Sexual Carob

I have not been on a quest to find undergarments that would free me of visible panty lines (VPL). Despite that, I keep on stumbling on these items. One interesting product that I found to Guard the Lady Business, a strapless G-string.

This product from the Shibue Couture line helps ladies who do not want VPL, yet going “commando” is not option.

You are thinking how does this product stay on. Each panty comes with 12 adhesive front and back strips. I was curious about this product, especially if I had to go to the restroom. The website gives detailed instructions on how to use this product. According to the website, the strapless G-String should not replace the daily wearing of normal underwear.

Prices range from $32 to $38 and $10 for extra adhesive tape.

The G-string has become the quintessential sexy undergarment (lingerie, if you will) of choice for many women. Maybe the strapless G-string will take its rightful place in the pantheon of  lingerie.

Sexual Carob

Hey Pumps and Gloss-ers,

Wishing you a happy and fun Valentine’s Day.

The greatest thing you’ll ever learn
Is to love and be loved in return.
~ From “Unforgettable with Love” by Natalie Cole

Enjoy some favorite love songs:

Musiq SoulChild “Teachme”

Musiq SoulChild “Lullaby”

India Arie featuring John Legend “Brown Skin”

George Michael “I Want Your Sex”

George Michael and the Queen “I Knew You Were Waiting for Me.”

10 Sizzling Secrets of Women Who Love Sex – From Cosmopolitan.com

“I always assumed I had a pretty decent sex life — that is, until my pal Heather dished the dirt on how she and her fiancé were regularly burning up their bedroom,” recalls Justine, a 25-year-old paralegal. “Over lunch one day, she wickedly giggled that she was having incredible orgasms that gave her a round-the-clock, supersensual mind-set.” After coaxing her highly satisfied pal to spill her prized secrets, Justine felt like she had stumbled onto a sexual pot of gold. “Heather’s passion pointers have already taken my lust life from so-so to fantastically en fuego,” says Justine.

So what did Justine learn from her doing-it demon pal? For starters, mattress megaprowess has nothing to do with possessing a perfect bod or loads of experience. What Heather and other vixens do have is a sex-cessful set of 10 pleasure principles they inherently follow.

Here, Cosmo’s rounded up those randy rules so you too can become a member of the lusty ladies club — and keep your guy very, very grateful.

1. “I can switch on my sex drive.”
Sensually supercharged women don’t wait around patiently for the mood to strike. Instead, they set in motion the sex-psyching strategies that work for them every time.

“I conjure up a favorite fantasy — I imagine myself totally naked,” reveals Cassie, a 29-year-old receptionist. “Whether I’m sitting behind my desk at work or I’m at the gym, I’ll pretend my clothes are in a heap on the floor and that dozens of hungry male eyes are glued to my body.”

Another libido-lifting trick is to wake up your senses: Spritz on your man’s cologne, brush satiny fabric against your skin, or suck on some fruit. “Taking time to engage each sense — touch, taste, sound, scent, and sight — will quickly kick-start your lust drive,” advises Susan Block, Ph.D., a sex therapist and radio show host.

2. “My body is my pleasure palace.”
A desire diva doesn’t waste time fretting about stubble and cellulite or wishing she didn’t take so long to climax. Instead, she sees herself as a carnal conduit loaded with sensual capabilities. How did these chicks become so aware of their pleasure points? Chances are, they’ll credit masturbation.

To get better acquainted with your sexual self, take their cue and become your own passion professor. “My husband constantly thanks me for having such a swinging solo sex life,” says Kerry, 27, a chef. “It’s given me the chance to seek out my innermost hot spots and teach myself how to have a mind-blowing string of O’s.”

Another hands-on advantage: You take charge of your orgasmic destiny. “When a guy can’t find my G-spot, I’ll gently take his fingers and guide them,” says Christi, 32, a teacher. “He still gets to be the source of my pleasure, but I’m the one exploding with ecstasy.”

3. “I know I’m a sex goddess.”
“I usually do a little striptease before sex — first disrobing seductively in front of my guy, then finishing by shaking my butt,” reveals Rebecca, a 29-year-old therapist. Hearing that, you’d assume Rebecca has a tush as tempting as Jennifer Lopez’s. Surprise — she describes her behind as Flat City. “Long ago, I learned that men are turned on by a woman who is uninhibited about her sexuality,” she says. “My current beau would rather date a confident woman with an imperfect figure than a 36-24-36 chick who’s too timid to show her shape.”

The tricky thing about sexual confidence, as any carnal cowgirl will admit, is that you need a little to begin with before it can blossom into a natural part of your passion personality. So how do you start? “Fake it at first — that’s what I did,” admits Bari, a 25-year-old designer. “My now-boyfriend was a coworker of mine whom I had a massive crush on. So I mentally made over my attitude from mousy staffer to office tramp, asked him out for a beer, and let my inner sex goddess loose. Six months of incredible action later, I still haven’t reined in that attitude.”

4. “I speak up for myself in the sack.”
On-fire femmes know that men love to please. But even the most perceptive guy in the world won’t have your moan zones all mapped out. “I tell my partners how I want to be touched,” says Eliza, a 29-year-old psychologist. “Then I giggle and scream to reinforce what he’s doing. I let guys know how to send me soaring.”

If you’re not used to being so erotically expressive, clue in your man by praising his sexual performance. Compliment him on what he does do well, then add a subtle suggestion: “It turns me on so much when you kiss my breasts, I’d go wild if you put your hand between my legs too.”

Remember: This is the electronic age; email can also be an erotic way to detail your desire directions. “My man’s usual sex style — fast thrusting — was too rough. So I sent him a sexy message saying I was imagining him rocking me to a gentle, slo-mo climax,” recalls Marion, 24, a real estate agent. “That night, he begged me for a demo. He loved the lighter touch, and now we go slow each time.”

5. “It’s not if I have an orgasm — it’s how.”
Women who ooze erotic energy don’t view their Big O as a lucky bonus. Instead, reaching the pleasure pinnacle is their right. “Men don’t consider it sex unless they have an orgasm,” explains Maria, a 27-year-old sales assistant. “So why should I settle for almost-but-not-quite?” “I wish every woman would tattoo I deserve great sex on her brain,” says Gina Ogden, Ph.D., author of Women Who Love Sex (Womanspirit, 1999). “Sexual satisfaction is a self-fulfilling prophecy. If you don’t expect to be peeled off the ceiling, it won’t happen.” So start believing that every-time orgasms aren’t elusive rewards reserved for select women — they’re yours for the taking. “Once I became confident I would be able to come, I started having earth-shaking climaxes,” confirms Stephanie, a 23-year-old teaching assistant.

6. “I’ve mastered one signature sex move.”
“Most women try to please their partners with direct below-the-belt stimulation, so I devote my time to a guy’s lesser-known erogenous areas,” explains Mary, a 26-year-old jewelry designer. Her favorite place: that fleshy, supersensual web of skin between the thumb and finger. “Most guys I’ve dated don’t even know about this hot spot.”

Lust fiends like Mary know that mastering at least one unique, naughty-but-nice move can morph you from a hot-and-heavy lover to holy moly! sex-partner status. But you don’t have to focus on his G-rated hot spots alone or a specific sexual act. Your signature style can be about invoking an entire mood: sweetly simple, daring and dirty, or pushing the erotic envelope.

7. “I get to know his secret desires.”
Sexually charged chiquitas know that ecstasy is much more exciting when you skip the paint-by-numbers passion plan. “There’s nothing hotter than getting to know your partner and finding out which unique moves get him going,” Block says. “He’ll be blown away by having a willing woman explore his secret desires.”

“Just when I think I know the best oral-sex technique, a new lover and I will discover something I’d never have thought of,” explains Christina, a 25-year-old studio assistant. “My current partner showed me how to brush a pair of satin panties against his testicles while I’m going down on him. The two different sensations drive him over the edge — I’m afraid our neighbors are going to call the police on us.”

Taking the time to experiment with new caresses and positions won’t just make your guy grovel, it’ll expand your idea of what’s sexy. Plus, you’ll be able to use your newly discovered moves to whip future lovers into a frenzy.

8. “I never let sex get stale.”
Libidinous lasses love traveling to the outer limits of lust. “Once my man and I moved in together, sex went straight from sizzling to snoozeville,” recalls Sadie, a 28-year-old editor. “While lazily flipping cable channels late one night, we caught a soft-core movie — and the on-screen action was really turning us on. Now we rent erotic videos whenever our sex life needs energizing.”

Bodacious babes like Sadie know that as soon as sex loses its erotic edge, they have to take fast action. They’ll view steamy videos, try a sex toy, leaf through triple-X magazines, act out a secret fantasy, make love in a different location, or test-drive a scorching new position — almost anything in the pursuit of greater pleasure with their partner. To keep the heat in your relationship on high, vow to sample something naughty yet new at least once a week: Surprise your guy by doing the deed in the shower, read erotic books, or duck away from a party into an empty bedroom for a mischievous quickie.

9. “I’m passionate 24-7.”
“Sexuality is a round-the-clock activity, not an isolated act you do in 20-minute stretches,” explains Dina, a 33-year-old nurse. “So I’ll get up a little early to indulge in a luxurious bath rather than a five-minute shower. Or I’ll wear silk stockings instead of drugstore panty hose.”

We’re not suggesting that silk stockings are a substitute for sizzling sex. But burning babes never separate their lust lives from the rest of their lives. “Great lovers integrate desire into everything they do so they feel sensuous all day long,” says Susan Crain Bakos, author of Sexational Secrets (St. Martin’s Press, 1996). “I love pre-sex tension and post-sex afterglow as much as I love doing the deed itself, so I’ll make these moments extra sensual for me and my guy,” admits Felicity, a 24-year-old MBA student. “Before sex, I’ll flirt with him as if we were meeting for the first time. After we’ve climaxed, we keep touching each other, basking in how good we feel. Sex is so wonderful, why should it have a clear-cut beginning and end?”

10. “Sex is at the top of my to-do list.”
Girls who love sex never make those tired, same-old excuses — “I got my period”; “I had a stressful day”; “I feel sooo fat” — for why they can’t hit the sheets. Instead, passion is number one on their to-do lists, and they know that erotic action is the best cure for cramps, stress, and the blues. “Once you put off pleasure, it becomes easier and easier to postpone, and pretty soon you’re out of the habit,” explains Bakos. “It can be hard to get back in the sexual swing of things once your sensual switches have been turned off.”

So even if you’re not wildly turned on, you’ll be doing yourself a favor by slipping into a sensuous state of mind. “When I come home flipped out from a rough day at work, sex is the furthest thing from my mind,” remarks Amie, a 27-year-old reservations agent. “But instead of shutting out my boyfriend, I’d much rather re-spark my desire by kissing his five o’clock shadow and being held in his arms. Our lovemaking that night may not be mind-blowing, but it’ll feel good — and making each other feel good keeps our bond strong.”